A slice of feminism fun
A laugh goes deeper than a discussion
See on feministing.com
Leadership isn’t something that happens overnight. It is a decision that will require dedication and discipline. Here are five rich and relevant nuggets from the leadership lessons I learned recently.
When you know that leadership is not a position.
See on www.evancarmichael.com
Lately I’ve felt like I’m in a wind tunnel—with demands coming from all directions. People rush by at a frantic pace, driven by excessive commitments with barely enough room to breathe. Many of my coworkers are among the walking wounded, suffering from chronic headaches, back and shoulder pain, insomnia, digestive disorders and a host of other stress-related illnesses. Cramming their schedules with one commitment after another, they deny themselves adequate sleep, nutritious food, exercise, and contemplative time–literally making themselves sick. Research has shown that living this way is dangerous, hazardous to our health—shutting down our immune and digestive systems, leading to chronic unresolved inflammation, coronary disease, obesity, type-2 diabetes, and other major health risks. To regain our balance, to say “Yes” to life, we must say “No” to the insanity of over commitment.
Why is it so hard to say “No”?
Some people are afraid saying “No” will hurt people’s feelings and they’ll be rejected.Others don’t believe they “deserve” the time and space they need to be healthy.And some people don’t know how.
Yet “Yes” and “No” are vital to the rhythm of life—like yin and yang, breathing out and breathing in. By saying “No” to some things we can say “Yes” to our highest priorities—and a top priority is our own health and well being. If you’ve been racing around with a schedule crammed with over commitment, take a lesson from Henry David Thoreau—“Our life is frittered away by detail. . . .Simplify, simplify.” (Thoreau, 2004, p.73). Pare down your commitments to free up room to breathe. If you’ve been over committing because you’re afraid of hurting people’s feelings or don’t know how to say “No,” practice. Start developing this skill. You can be diplomatic, saying “Thank you for thinking of me” or “I’d love to”—“but I have to say ‘No.’” Don’t go into a long list of excuses. Keep it simple. Say “that won’t work for me.” or “I’ve got too much on my plate.” You don’t have to explain. One wise friend of mine simply says, “I have a long-term commitment that I cannot break.”
—and that commitment might just be to yourself.
See on www.psychologytoday.com
A movement that started out as a critique of capitalist exploitation ended up contributing key ideas to its latest neoliberal phase
Here’s another controversial angle on feminism:
The major threat of feminism is losing vision: a movement for women liberation gets seduced by neoliberalism, a collective movement dwindles into individual efforts.
Where do you stand?
See on www.theguardian.com
Financial independence brings real autonomy, and the power to say no. That’s the great prize for women.
What if it Was Lehman’s Sisters?
Women are not only bringing an additional income into their homes and putting food on the table, but they also have the money to send their children to school, investing in their futures too.
In fact women are now redefining markets and creating growth by focusing their spending power on … food, health care, education clothing, consumer durables and financial services.
See on www.wellesley.edu
Freedom of speech: skew facts and face the music.
Controversial veteran radio broadcaster Howard Sattler says he is “flabbergasted” after being sacked by 6PR on Friday afternoon.
Perth radio station 6PR, a sister station of 3AW, last night issued a statement saying announcer Howard Sattler had been stood down after asking Prime Minister Julia Gillard ‘a number of questions’ regarding the sexuality of her partner, Tim Mathieson. “Mr Sattler has been suspended from broadcasting on 6PR pending an internal inquiry,
Howard Sattler asked if Tim Mathieson is gay because he is a hairdresserHe made the gaffe during a live interview on radio station 6PR in PerthComes a week after DJ behind Duchess of Cambridge prank won top award Gillard today: ‘I want girls to feel included and not face such questions’
The Aussies have a spine.
Fighting tooth and nail against sexism or silly pranks.
See on www.dailymail.co.uk
The secret to a successful woman may be a proud but serious demeanor.
New research from Germany’s Technische Universitat Munchen suggested that cheerful women are seen as less willing to assume a leadership role than their male counterparts.
Women seeking higher positions in a company are expected to demonstrate excellent negotiation skills, networking capabilities and the ability to develop a strategic career ladder. However, economic researchers found that these attributes aren’t always enough.
It’s a German study!! Any other continental opinion?
So if I’m cheerful and friendly, I’m incompetent, but if I’m not cheerful, I’m cold and mean? Women can’t win, can they?
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Melissa McCarthy and Sandra Bullock interviewed each other for Parade and it was hella cute. “If we had a beer den, with Barcaloungers—but our version of that—it’d be great.” “There’d be fabric swatches everywhere.
“I don’t know if I feel like a bad mom, but at the end of the day I’m always plagued with: Did I do enough? Should I go in a different direction?
“Welcome to the world of working mothers. I can guarantee you — all working moms feel the same push/pull that you’re experiencing. And guess what, it’ll be some fathers do, too.”
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